I have the boys Fri through Sunday every other weekend. I know it’s all about the quality, not the quantity, but the time we have together is simply not enough. The boys are 6 and 8, and I want to spend as much time as possible with them while they are still little and not yet jaded. Because the boys and their mother live 45 minutes away, it hasn’t been feasible for Ben and Ryan to stay with me during the week. If that’s the case, I want them for long chunks of time over summer. And yet I’ve procrastinated, probably to avoid conflict with the boys’ mother. I would really like your feedback and suggestions on how I should proceed. Should I go through the courts and request a mediator, who I guess would bring us together, hammer things out, and then make a recommendation to the judge? In which case I would need to have her served, which I’m uncomfortable about. Can overcome that though. The other option is to work with Teresa to agree on the new terms of visitation/custody, and then present that to the court. I left her a message the other day asking if she’d like to agree on a new schedule, and I never heard back. So maybe I just answered my own question — looks like I need to request a mediator and have her served.